How to Come to an Agreement with Your Co-parent About Parenting
If you are a parent and you cannot come to agreement with your co-parent in a lot of cases when it comes to dealing with your children, you’re not alone. Since you and your partner are two different people with whole backgrounds of different experiences during your lives, you both have the right to think differently when it comes to treating your children and parenting them. Especially because it is impossible for both of you not to care about your children since you love them very much. But there are still some modifications and techniques which can be applied in order for both of you to be able to handle this situation in a more proper way. Despite all of your disagreements, you can still be great parents and work as a team. So if you want to learn how, please keep reading.
1. Accept the differences and have an open mind
As we just said, people are different, they have a different background, childhood, social experiences, work situations, parents, friends, etc. So all of this differences will definitely change the way they look at parenting. The first step you should make as a parent to come to some agreement and peace with your co-parent is to accept their differences and do not criticize them for trying to apply what they think is right. This will not only eliminate criticizing from the relationship which is a big step towards a successful marriage by itself, it also makes you listen to each other and actually hear each other. Who knows, maybe you learn a thing or two from one another.
2. Have humor and make the whole disagreement a fun thing
It may sound funny to you, but if you’re in love with your partner, it is possible for both of you to put all the differences aside for a moment and actually be humorous about it. Try to laugh at your differences and even sing about it, I know, it sounds silly, but this can get you to a lot of places. When you smile and take all these differences as a joke, your whole mood will be lighten up and as a result, both of you will be able to make a more informed decision.
3. Accept the other person’s opinion in some cases
Compromise every once in awhile and accept what your husband or wife suggests. This will let them know that you respect their opinion and even though you don’t agree with it, you are willing to try it their way. This will cause the partner to do the same thing for you every once in awhile too.
4. Talk through your opinions
Instead of just trying to convince your partner that what you are saying is correct, try to listen to them and ask them why they think their approach is better. They way you will give your reasons and you can hear theirs, you don’t necessarily have to agree with them, but it’s much better than not knowing about them. Of course this is a two-way street and your partner should listen to your reasons as well.
5. Know that your child can be different from you
Just because something had worked out for you when you were a child, it doesn’t necessarily mean it is going to work out for your child too. People are different, so try to case study your child and respectfully ask your co-parent to do the same.
6. Try to come to a final agreement, even with compromises
No parenting works better than when both parents work as a team, so no matter how much compromise you have made during an argument for settling the type of parenting you should apply on your child, try to get to a final agreement which both of you can stick to and apply. After all, both of you are after the same thing which is teaching your child a lesson in life, so instead of trying to apply your own approach individually, agree on something specific and work as a team.
By following these techniques not only you will be able to make most of the disagreements go away, you will also be able to parent your child much easier and teach them all the lessons you want them to learn about life.